CONNECTED - October 10, 2010
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About Relationships and Families…
Investing means putting something into something [originally, putting a body into clothing] with the purpose of obtaining something in return - e.g. putting on expensive and/or attractive clothing to gain the admiration of others.
You may invest time in going to the gym to get your body in shape. You may invest money in the stock market to increase your wealth. You may invest your talent in a particular career or company to have a secure future. You may invest all three - time, money and talent - to have a wonderful adventure. It may be risky - as the definition of the word "adventure" implies - but you may be willing to go for it.
If you want a relationship - especially an extraordinary relationship - and the experience that comes with it, what do you invest? Time? Money? Talent? Is any or all of that sufficient? We're not sure. We haven't asked the question before.
However, in asking the question now, we're thinking that the answer may be "you invest yourself - all of yourself". Now that sounds risky. That is a major adventure.
We suspect that in most relationships most of us invest some of ourselves and withhold some of ourselves to reduce the risk. However, in reducing the apparent risk, you also reduce - even forfeit - the reward of an extraordinary relationship.
We welcome any insights, questions, comments, etc. Please email and/or call us (760.603.8343).
Love,
Sandy & Lon
Daisy and Arash: investing in their relationship
Another Special Book
Heather Lawrence, a good friend of ours in Boulder, CO, has published a most amazing book in which she explains to children - and adults - what "dead" is. She wrote WHAT IS DEAD? for her son, and it is profound in its simple truthfulness. We think you will be astonished - and find it very useful in talking to any child about death.
Go to www.whatisdead.com to read more about Heather's book and to purchase it.
Our workshop schedule for 2011, and for the remainder of 2010, is posted on www.relationshipbydesign.com
Remember that we are available for relationship and family coaching for those of you who are not able to make it to one of our workshops or who wish to do additional work with us. We're also available to your friends. Please call us at 760/603-8343.
Thank all of you who have referred others to us for our coaching. We love being busy, useful and making a difference.
"Family faces are magic mirrors." Gail Lumet Buckley
It may be that our family mimics what we do, and even what we have, as we and they go through life.
What may be more amazing is that they mimic the way we are being!
How are you being in your family now?
Our mimickers (grandchildren): Ian, Bailey, Kyle, Victoria, Ross and Riley
Enjoy your time together,
Sandy & Lon
Sandy and Lon Golnick
Relationship & FamiliesByDesign