"What if my partner and/or I are attracted to someone else?" is a fear/question we often hear from people as they engage in forming or reforming a relationship.
What there is to see and say about that concern could probably fill at least one book - and also evoke the times when we were younger and we selected something, like a piece of candy, only to see something that looked even better after we made our selection.
But the real question is not "What if…?". It's "When…?" Being attracted to other members of the species comes with being human. It has been a human trait for thousands of years - it ensures the survival of the species. It's the old law of attraction. And in all probability, we will continue to be attracted to others for the rest of our lives.
The question begins as "When we're attracted to others, what do we do?" But it becomes, "What is going to determine your behaviors when you are attracted to others?" Are you going to act out/dramatize the attraction and behave inconsistently with promises you made? If the answer is yes, you should know that you are exiting the relationship that was built on those promises. And this is true for all kinds of relationships - including business relationships.
Promises form the foundation and determine the form of a relationship. Keeping those promises nurtures the love (or affection or affinity in the case of non-romantic relationships) that is the context of a relationship. Fulfilling promises isn't the good or right thing to do; it's an expression of honor and respect, and it moves relationships from being merely histories to being creations of the future.
A way to stay disentangled from the web of fantasy surrounding attraction to someone other than your partner is to communicate the attraction to your partner.Take care of each other,
Sandy &Lon