CONNECTED - August 2008

About Relationship and Family

Accumulate - "to gather or collect, often in gradual degrees; heap up; amass; form a steadily increasing quantity."

From time to time we have asked you to consider that relationship is a game in which, as in any game, the point of playing is to gain [something].

The problem is, if you are not mindful, what you gain may accumulate and stealthily become your master/tyrant.

A case in point: If, in some of your "relationships", you heard that you were [being] a bad mother, father, child, partner, employee, etc., you may have gained - and unconsciously accumulated - enough of that point-of-view to have it begin to look like fact or truth. That "truth" then began to shape your concerns and actions, and thereby became your master.

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Now, if someone in a new relationship suggests something in support of your being a great mother (father, etc.), it unconsciously gets added to the heap of "I must be a bad...", and that someone gets added to the heap of relationships that you hear as critical of you.

When, in extraordinary relationship, you begin to identify yourself as "WE" instead of "I", what you have accumulated as an individual may not be so important - and tyrannical - as it has been. A new freedom, peace and ease can arise.

Let us know what you see!
Lon and Sandy Golnick
(760)603-8343

What's New?

TELECONVERSATIONS - exploring and bringing new insight to what it is that you are dealing with everyday in your relationships and families.

In response to many suggestions and requests, beginning in September we are planning to conduct sets of weekly and/or biweekly conference calls on topics of concern to you and your families.

We are looking forward to this exciting new adventure.